selfhood
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Dating Gets Different When Everyone Has History
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Dating in your 40s is a different sport. Everyone comes with an ex, a few emotional scars, a couple of questionable decisions and, if you’re lucky, a funny story about how they got there. The hard part is figuring out which of it belongs in the past—and which of it…
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Why Our Circle Gets Smaller
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Some friendships become like the decorative vase sitting in the corner of your living room. There’s nothing wrong with it—you’ve just forgotten it’s there. Growing older has a funny way of teaching us the difference between keeping people and keeping friendships.
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The Unexpected Freedom Of Caring Less
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For years, I thought I needed to be friends with everyone. I’d volunteer to bring the birthday cake for people I barely knew and somehow believed being the life of the party was part of my personality. Turns out, I’m an ambivert—and growing older gave me permission to stop pretending…
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The Strange Joy Of Becoming Friends With Your Mother
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As children, we think our mothers have all the answers. Mine certainly did, although I’m still waiting to find out why red is called red and not blue. Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, our conversations changed, and so did our relationship.